Thoughts on “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”

After my father passed away all of a sudden I felt like I had found myself in an alternative timeline by running too fast like the Flash. The world felt completely different and surreal. It was all too much for me and my family. I experienced all kinds of things in the last 4 months. I do not want to go through something like this again unprepared and neither do I want someone else to go through something like this unprepared.

I have always avoided the Self-Help genre and been skeptical of these books. It just never worked for me because I was never in need of any such advice and I was never the right audience for these kind of books. I have found new appreciation for this genre after all that I had been through and a new kind of respect for these books. I still think most are garbage and generic. But there are a few that stand out as being very practical and ones that make you go “huh, that’s pretty doable, why didn’t I think of that”. I think that if a book makes you think that way, it’s pretty solid in its content. This is what Mark Manson’s “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” did to me. It broke many of my notions and made me rethink my approaches. Of course, its easier said than done. It doesn’t change life overnight the moment you finish the last chapter. You will have to work on it and let it simmer till its a habit.

This book has so many quotable paragraphs that I just stopped bothering about marking important ones. There are a few that really stand out but the entire book is worth reading once. Some of the advice might seem really harsh but truth is harsh and so is life. I think this book is for everyone, age, gender, race doesn’t matte because Disappointment Panda affects everyone anyway.

My favorite chapters would be the last 3. Especially the last one on Death. It was very relatable to me in light of whatever happened to us. I think i will read this book every year just to remind myself over and over again that these are the things I need to focus on continuously. It is not a feel good self help book. Its a practical, rude awakening for everyone who reads it. I highly recommend this book, especially the last 3-4 chapters.

 

 

If – By Rudyard Kipling

Poetry is something i have always liked since i was a child. Especially one’s that inspire and one’s that make you think and feel good after reading. Poetry, according to me, should make an impact on you, whether it makes you laugh or think, as long as it has an impact, you will want to read it over and over again. I’ve read many poems that make no sense at all or are vague in nature and never bothered with them ever again.

One of the most beautiful poems I have read is “If” by Rudyard Kipling. Its simple to understand and has such a powerful message – that a man must be humble, patient, rational, truthful, dependable, and hard working.

If –┬áby Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!